Mediators for when friendships go badly w/ Twyla Lucas | Episode 26

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In this episode, Twyla and I discussed strategies for reconciliation after falling-out with your bestie. From experience she knows  how mediators can help mend those good relationships.

 

Yes, you can quote our “Pearls of Wisdom”

  1. Talking things through is much better than texting and tweeting. – TWYLA LUCAS

Talking things through is much better than texting and tweeting and it can help make your relationship better because you are able to communicate and explaining what that person’s situation, what they said to you, how it affected you.

 

  1. We have to go that extra mile with out children instead of just being their friend but we need to tell them what they need to hear sometimes and not just what they want to. – TWYLA LUCAS

The situation with me and the other mother, we talked, we recognized our daughters as good friends and something small and petty, they need to fix, we need to get them together so sometimes we have to go that extra mile with out children instead of you know, we are their friend but we need to tell them what they need to hear sometimes and not just what they want to.

 

  1. Mediating relationships means you’ll need to be the bigger person & be willing to identify and fix conflict.

I just feel like we shouldn’t get past that stereotype that women cant get along and you should be the bigger person and be willing to go to that individual with the conflict is and try to fix it.

Call To Action:

Let us just reconnect. You do need to put effort in to understand how you disconnect so you would not disconnect but let us just reconnect. It’s not sweeping things under the rug, it’s not ignoring the obvious. We are just talking about people, friends who disconnect because of whatever but it wasn’t a falling out.

Links

Find Cecelia GreeneBarr
www.facebook.com/DrGreeneBarr
www.buildingabettersisterhood.com
www.CeceliaGreeneBarr.com

 

Reconnecting with friends | Episode 25

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On the podcast today, I talk to you about reconnecting with good friends. How many of us have sister friends that we’ve moved into the category of “former friend”? Maybe it’s because time has passed, situations have come and go and they kind of dropped off our radar? If you have a sister-friend that you’ve disconnected with please enjoy this podcast.

Yes, you may quote me –  “PEARLS OF WISDOM”

 

  1. Not all disconnects happen because the friends had a disagreement. 
  1. Disconnects can happen because other things get put in front of the friendship. 
  1. If this friend is important to you then you are going to have to initiate the contact. 
  1. If you are tired of being the first mover then you have some soul searching to do about the worth of the friendship. 
  1. Friends are hard to come by.  
  1. If you have a sister-friend, it’s worth trying to develop and make that relationship better. 

 

CALL TO ACTION:

It’s time to reconnect. You need to put effort into understanding how the friendship disconnected. It’s not about sweeping things “under the rug” or ignoring the obvious. If the friendship was meaningful, make the emotional investment and reach out for the purposes of reconnecting. If it helps, invited your disconnected friend to listen to this podcast. It could be the vehicle to get the conversation flowing.

Links

Find Cecelia GreeneBarr
www.facebook.com/DrGreeneBarr
www.buildingabettersisterhood.com
www.CeceliaGreeneBarr.com

The intentional act of follow up | Episode 24

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Today, I’d like to talk about following up on conversations, following up on commitments. In order to maintain good relationships with our sisters, we have to master the art of following-up. Come behind the initial engagement and follow-up.

 

Yes, you can quote our “Pearls of Wisdom”

  • There has to be intention and action after the initial connection. CECELIA GREENEBARR

There has to be intention and action after the initial connection in order for whatever was discussed at that point to begin to have a life of it’s own.

  • We have to master the art of follow-up. – CECELIA GREENEBARR

We have to master the art of follow-up. Come behind the initial engagement and follow-up. It doesn’t mean, you had to have something specific you need to say but it’s just the point of being able to follow-up.

  • Following-up communicates your sincerity. CECELIA GREENEBARR

Following-up communicates your sincerity in what matters to your best friend. Your sincerity as it relates to what is happening in their life. What is important to them even the small things.

  • When you begin to do your follow up, try not to go the route of text messaging. CECELIA GREENEBARR
  • Keep your best friend relationships as personal as possible. –CECELIA GREENEBARR

Try to put some little bit more effort into it and keep your best friend relationships as personal as possible

  • Don’t be so busy with the pursuit of life that you don’t have to follow-up with your BFF. – CECELIA GREENEBARR
  • As females we can be better towards one another but it takes some work, effort and intentionality. CECELIA GREENEBARR

I really believe that as females we can be better towards one another. It takes some work. It takes some effort. It takes intentionality.

Call To Action:

Follow-up today on some thing your BFF told you most recently. Follow up, call, drop by, face time, Skype, something but make your presence and your interest and your concern know. It is just one more step towards being a better sister to your BFF. 

Links

Find Cecelia GreeneBarr on the Facebook: www.facebook.com/DrGreeneBarr

 

Steps to restoring friendships w/ Alicia Hunter | Episode 23

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In this episode, we will be talking about how as females, we can develop better relationships and the steps we all need to take in order to restore broken friendships.

Yes, you can quote our “Pearls of Wisdom”

Its okay to allow other people to love you that aren’t biologically connected to you. – ALICIA HUNTER

So many people are so selfish with themselves, they hold back the best of themselves because they are trying to be protective somewhere along the way. CECELIA GREENEBARR

So many people are so selfish with themselves, they hold back the best of themselves because they are trying to be protective somewhere along the way. They have been hurt so they are only going to give a smidgen of themselves to someone so therefore people don’t want to share because they recognize that scarcity and that scarcity of love and attention.

Love and time heals all wounds and sometimes you just have to step back and give it time. – ALICIA HUNTER

Its what happens in the passing of time that determines if the passing of time was valuable or wasted– CECELIA GREENEBARR

the passing of time doesn’t heal anything because what was at the core that created the situation is never addressed but if in the passing of time, people begin to look at what they did, to create the core of the issue and start working on that instead of just constantly pointing fingers at the other party, then when there is a coming together, the coming together is better because they recognize what they did wrong. its what happens in the passing of time that determines if the passing of time was valuable or wasted.

As females, we have the capacity to be better towards one another. – CECELIA GREENEBARR

It is more important to love one another and to respect one another. – ALICIA HUNTER

A lot of these falling out sometimes have to do with you are not agreeing to them and what they are saying and you are not going to agree on everything but at the end of the day, it is more important to love one another and to respect one another and sometimes you will just have to agree to disagree.

True friendships can be reconciled. – CECELIA GREENEBARR

if you find yourself in a situation where you have sets of friends who don’t really want to be in each other’s presence around you because they don’t want to share you or if you are in a situation where you and one of your BFFs had a falling out, our hope today is that true friendships can be reconciled.

Call To Action:

Let the work begin with in you. First just kind of roam around your memory, not looking for what your BFF did but look at what you did, how did you contribute to the fall out. Do a walk around in your own headspace. Figure out where were you emotionally, mentally and physically. Evaluate where you were and it is for the purposes of identifying if you were really the contributing agent to the fall out. That is what we are looking for and if you were, take responsibility for that. Start working on correcting that element of what you discovered and then when the timing and the opportunity is correct, reconciliation will happen but in that moment of reconciliation, that is when it is time for you to step to the table and say “Listen, I know what was happening with me that contributed to this, I apologize for my part. I am not in that same place anymore and I want my friend back”.

 

Links

Find Alicia Hunter on the following platforms:
Facebook Page – https://www.facebook.com/alicia.hunter.503

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